Last week I celebrated my birthday. It was a momentous occasion as I hit the big 50 and I launched my book. The book is called ”Women and Leadership: Conversations that matter”.

Leading up to the launch, I had both feelings of excitement and of anxiety. A friend of mine called this “human”. I guess it is the case but I wished I could find a way to make the feelings of anxiety go away. I share this with you as oftentimes we do not talk about our insecurities and vulnerability and tend to put up a bold face. Brene Brown writes “…You either walk in your story and own it or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness”. By sharing my story and fears I choose to “own up” and “walk in my story”. In that way I regain my personal power which I need if I am to succeed.

Birthing the book has also left me with a big sense of achievement. I choose to stop and celebrate this achievement, as oftentimes we women we don’t do so because we have set our “deserve level” to be very low. Women have not mastered the practice of celebrating their achievements and I suppose as a leadership coach I need to walk the talk.

Turning 50 has brought to bar two fundamental tensions that women face. I use these to share with the reader, that they exist for everybody. I guess the one thing with coming of age is to accept yourself and be content with what you offer. They say from now on wards the road becomes smoother (I hope so) as what you see is what you get. As someone who is always looking for new ways to show up in the world, it is going to be a tall order and I suppose it is worth a try.

In the next weeks I will be traveling the country introducing the book and also running workshops to share the insights from the book. I hope to meet you in the arena.


Pam The Coach